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Life Update: Coping Strategies

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Hello, friends of the blog. In today’s post, I wanted to give you an update on my life circumstances. Many of you have been following my journey towards being on the verge of homelessness. Some of you have been praying for me, and some of you have generously donated to help with my living costs, emergency accommodation, and the debt I am in. I thought it would be conscientious to keep you updated, seeing as you have offered me so much kind and helpful support.

About a week ago, I made the difficult decision to return to the flat. My finances were in a pretty dire state, although being featured on the Be That Somebody channel on TikTok led to some very generous donations from strangers that were an amazing help. It gave me a bit of breathing space knowing that I could afford to stay in cheap hotels for a few more nights as and when necessary. If you’re reading this and you did donate, I want you to know that every donation has made a huge difference and has been a great support. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

Since I’ve been back at the flat, I have been focused on making the most of a difficult situation. A friend of mine encouraged me to try to focus entirely on my own thoughts and actions and try to ignore the behaviour of my neighbour as much as possible. I had already been doing this to some extent, but my friend’s advice prompted me to refocus a little. I spent some time writing a series of affirmations which I read every day, and I have been practicing some mindfulness and grounding exercises every day as well.

I have employed certain coping strategies that are really helping. As well as the grounding exercises and affirmations, I have managed to quit smoking completely and switch to vaping. This has improved my frame of mind a lot. I also have other coping strategies, such as taking a shower when I’m feeling anxious and giving myself small mood boosts when I’m feeling low, whether it be a can of Coke, a bar of chocolate, or a cup of spicy chai. I know that some of these habits aren’t entirely healthy, but I have been under so much stress that I have afforded myself a little slack in this regard. I am not overweight and I do still try to exercise regularly.

I’ve been trying to stay positive and count my blessings at all times, as well as keeping busy working on projects that distract me and make me feel less concerned about the behaviour of others. It’s not always easy, but it’s going pretty well. I have managed to finish writing another short book. It’s actually a book I wrote a few years ago as a ‘lead magnet’ when I was building an email list, but I have revised and updated it, reformatted it, and updated the cover art. The book is very short, around 55 pages in length, but I’m pleased with the finished product and I stayed up all last night going through the process of publishing the book, which will be available in paperback and eBook formats exclusively through Amazon. If you’re interested, you can view the book on Amazon here.

One thing that has really lifted my mood is that yesterday I ran a free book promotion for God’s Grand Game with FreeBooksy. The book was downloaded around 1000 times just yesterday, which is a way higher number of downloads than I was expecting. I’m so thankful for this. I have decided to put my work-in-progress book Divine Justice on hold for the time being because it’s the kind of book that requires a great deal of research and concentration and with my accommodation circumstances being as they are it is difficult for me to be productive with such things. As I’m self-publishing, there is no pressure or deadline for the book, so I can revisit the project in the future, God willing.

I have a medical review tomorrow at the hospital which I’m a little anxious about. The health service in the UK (as well as the social housing system) is very strained, and I have been waiting for two months for this doctor’s appointment. Although I have made some notes in relation to things I want to discuss in the meeting, I don’t have a great relationship with the doctor I’m seeing because he is quite anti-religious and tends to focus exclusively on medication as mental health treatment rather than talking therapies and other ways to improve wellbeing. There is a shortage of doctors on the team, and I’ve been told I cannot see anyone else, so I will just hope and pray it goes well.

At the present time, I see myself staying in this accommodation, because there is no alternative available that would necessarily improve things. It’s a case of societal and systemic issues, and while I could pursue trying to find alternative housing, or sleep rough, it’s highly likely that I could end up in even worse circumstances than I’m in currently. Prayers for things to go well here, as well as for my medical appointment tomorrow, would be very much appreciated.

I pray that you will all have a wonderful week ahead, filled with unexpected blessings and breakthroughs, as well as pleasant surprises. And above all, I wish you an abundance of peace. God bless you!