As many of you know I have been through a rather “turbulent” mental health journey over the last decade. I’m actually doing pretty well at the moment and next month will mark three and half years since I was last in hospital. This has been the longest period of sound mental health for me since my first hospital admission in 2007.
I am taking medication in the form of an injection every two weeks (and a couple of tablets morning and evening to help deal with the side effects from the injection). Compared to some of the medication I’ve been on my current regime is pretty manageable, although I’m still experiencing side effects which are inhibiting and unpleasant.
I’m so grateful to God and I thank Him each day for the abundant blessings in my life. I have a roof over my head, food and drink, Internet access, support from my local Mind, and I recently started to attend some low-cost counselling, which is proving to be very helpful and is what I want to focus on in this article.
I have had three counselling sessions with Yvonne (not her real name) and each one has been interesting, challenging, and thought-provoking. I’m no stranger to talking therapies; in the past I have attended private psychotherapy, group CBT, one-to-one CBT, and Christian counselling. I also tried psychodynamic counselling once but it was a bit like trying to interact with a brick wall so I gave up after a single session. I am mature enough now that I generally have a good idea of what is going to be helpful and what isn’t.
I identify as a Christian, even though there are aspects of Christian theology that trouble me and often cause me to question the faith. I try to live out the two great commandments identified by Jesus – to love the Lord with all my heart, soul, mind, and strength, and to love my neighbour as myself. I try to make these two commandments the focus of my life, and part of the reason I am attending counselling is to try to understand myself in a deeper way so that I can be of greater assistance to others.
To be honest, I have been in two minds about whether it’s a good idea to attend ‘secular’ counselling (and by that I mean counselling where one’s faith is not necessarily central to the process). I have been worried that when it comes to talking about my beliefs, there may be certain things that are profoundly important to me, such as the way I understand God, Jesus, or the Bible, that my therapist might not be able to relate to. I worry about this before every session. Having a personal relationship with God is such a wonderful thing, but can seem like madness to someone who doesn’t have such a relationship (See 1 Corinthians 1:18).
I haven’t held back from talking about Jesus in my sessions with Yvonne so far. And I have been pleasantly surprised by her response when matters of faith have arisen. Yvonne is a true professional, and works hard to help me to understand my own beliefs, behaviours, and values, without being critical or judgmental in any way. And to me, this goes to show that even for people of faith, counselling can be a wonderful thing.
With counselling it’s always important to remember it is a two-way relationship. There are things that the client can teach the counsellor as well as things that the counsellor can teach the client, and of course the ultimate truth is that God is using these sessions to teach both client and counsellor. Every counsellor is a flawed human being, as is every client. Everyone has gifts to give and lessons to learn.
Therapy has been life-changing for me in the past and with Yvonne it is proving to be life-changing once again. Attending therapy doesn’t mean that you’re more broken than everyone else, it means that you have a desire to grow and develop and understand your personality and your strengths and weaknesses in a deeper way.
I suppose there are those Christians who might argue that all we need for our personal and spiritual development is contained within the pages of Scripture, and if we are guided by the Holy Spirit when reading the Bible then all the truth we seek will be revealed. Is it a kind of idolatry to see a secular counsellor who doesn’t necessarily share your faith? Does seeing a secular counsellor mean you are putting your trust in human beings rather than in the inerrant and infallible Word of God?
2 Timothy 3:16 says “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness”. This verse shows us that all Scripture is important, but does that mean that only Scripture is important? Does the Bible support the idea that counselling could be beneficial to us on our spiritual journeys?
The book of Proverbs has a lot to say about this. For example, Proverbs 13:10 reads “Through insolence comes nothing but strife, but wisdom is with those who receive counsel.” Proverbs 15:22 reads “Without consultation, plans are frustrated, but with many counsellors they succeed.” And Proverbs 12:15 gives further guidance: “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man is he who listens to counsel.”
It could be argued that in the above quotations, counsel means ‘Godly counsel’, and this can only come from believing Christians or the Bible. But might it be the case that God also uses secular influences to help us to grow on our spiritual journeys, to help us deal with pain and abuse and hardship, and to grow in wisdom and understanding? Even if Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life, are there still things we can learn from non-believers?
I will end with a short poem and I will leave it to you to make up your own mind as to whether secular counselling is profitable or sinful. This is something I must work out for myself as well. Please help me and other readers to get a broader perspective on this subject by leaving your thoughts in the comments below.
Approach all things with open mind,
All have gifts to which we’re blind,
Be sensitive to others’ cries,
Others too are also wise.