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Words to Live By

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When I’m not immersed in blog-related activities I spend a fair bit of screen time on a mental health forum where people generously support and comfort one another during times of distress. The way I would describe it is that it’s like Facebook, but with oodles of honesty and compassion thrown in. It’s really brilliant.

Anyway, somebody posted something tonight which I found incredibly helpful and comforting, so I thought I’d share it with you.

If you have to choose between being kind and being right, choose to be kind and you’ll always be right.

I feel this is a truth that I want to guide my conduct, and I hope it’s something I will always remember in those difficult situations we all have where we feel the need to defend ourselves because of pride or because we’re afraid of getting hurt.

If you’re struggling at the moment and would like to check out the mental health forum I mentioned, drop me an email via the contact page and I’ll tell you about it and send you a link. Have a wonderful weekend, dear ones, and be kind, whatever life throws at you! πŸ’›

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  1. Good words to live by, yes. Too often, I fail on the side of being right. The Word does not call us to be “right,” however, but kind and forgiving.
    “…be kind to one another, compassionate, forgiving one another as God has forgiven you in Christ.” Ephesians 4:32

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    1. Thanks for reading! I’m not convinced that medicine holds the answer, for reasons of a philosophical nature, but I’m so thankful for your optimism and for the encouraging tone of your comment. Much appreciated! πŸ™‚

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  2. 120% agree on this! I’ve never seen anyone change their point of view when someone else insults them. Never seen it work that way. Dale Carnegie has a great quote about this, “If you want honey, don’t kick over the beehive.”

    Keep up the good work!

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  3. I definitely agree. Although being always the kind one has not made people always treat me right. And that’s part of my mental health issues.
    But thanks for sharing! I am happy that raise awereness πŸ™‚

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    1. Hi Andrea! I do understand what you’re saying, and I can relate from my own experience. However, I believe the best course of action is to keep a soft heart, and continue to be kind, even when others aren’t. I’m not great at it, but I believe it’s a good principle. Thank you for reading!

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      1. I do too!
        I’d feel a huge amount of guilt if I’d make someone’s day terrible. I have been avoiding human contact however in the past few years however. I just don’t want be hurt like used to be.

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        1. I can understand that. You might like to check out the website I mentioned in the post, there are wonderful people there. Just drop me an email if you’re interested.

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  4. For me kindness is the gentle rain that falleth from heaven. It helps to preserve the balance and vitality of it all. However, too little or too much of it focused in one area can bring about extreme conditions. As guardians of this good earth it is our responsibility to bring hope where there is despair, light where there is darkness and love where there is hate. On the other hand one need not say what will happen to a plant if you over water it with kindness; it’s capacity to stand tall on its own will falter and its stem will bend under the slightest pressure. Perhaps the mean is better suited for adaptability & flexibility, integrity & fairness, rather than the extreme?

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  5. This is multi-faceted. In some contexts, doing the right thing for yourself is not the same thing as being kind for someone else. In others, and I think this is the point trying to be made, it’s really not important who is right and who is wrong. In those contexts, I agree with the sentiment. In the others I mentioned first, it is important to understand who you are being kind to, and what the cost of that kindness is. The gentlest approach is not always the kindest. Everyone deserves to treat themselves kindly too.

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